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How to Not Let Your Job Ruin Your Life: I QUIT

So I am technically working illegally.


Well as a an hourly private care assistant I will drive to peoples houses and help them carry on being as independent as possible. It’s something so rewarding but one thing I cant stand is getting 6 hours of sleep because you get back home at 11pm and you’re up the next day for 5:45am.


In a multi centre job you must have 11 hours consecutive break in a 24 hour period between your shifts from the time you get home to the time you have to leave again no matter if its a 0 hour contract or not by the Work Time Directive Law. Unfortunately people on a 0 hour contract in a health care assistant profession will most likely get abused by companies not following this law and it needs to stop.

1) It’s unhealthy mentally.

download2) Sleep is important, 8 hours a day is recommended but if you’re getting less than this and coming home to go straight to bed to get up,. then you literally lose your life just working and sleeping. I am not a social butterfly like I used to be because of this. It’s also dangerous to drive whilst tired and I’ve been doing it A LOT because of this job.

3) When will I actually get time to socialise and see family and friends? NEVER.

I am physically and emotionally tired and having hardly any sleep for 6 days straight does give me a mental break down FACT because of the worry of work changing the rota’s right in the middle of night when I should be getting a decent sleep. I don’t get time to relax basically.

And the biggest thing for me for quitting is being guilted and black mailed into my job.

Let me explain.

So because the management are terrible (well one certain human who we’ll call knobjockey for now) they change the rotas constantly and you can never be sure where you’ll be set. I’ve had them changed at 3am once and woke up for the time I thought I had to set off for work but actually woke up the time I was meant to be there as I had no warning.

But this time Knobjockey really took the biscuit.

how I feel driving
How I feel driving

I was at my friends house socialising for the first time in months with my closest friends who’d come back from uni and I knew I had to leave early to get up at 5:45 am to leave for my job. Now I also have a 20 mile radius for people i’ll go to around me which they never stick to and I spend so much petrol getting to places as it is which they don’t pay for, only the ones in between calls and that’s 19p a mile.

So at 5pm the evening before at my friends I get an email for the rota change. Instead of being 22 miles away from my house I was 27 miles away, another county over and for an hours jobs which would take me an hour and 10 mins to get there.


I was so fed up as this isn’t the first time oh no probably the 5th in the space of just over a month (and bearing in mind it isn’t like me at all to cry) but I broke down infront of everyone.

My friend Katie who i’ve known since I was 4 years old took me away and told me to ring them to stick up for myself and say I cant do it. So I did and knobjockey answered and I asked; now this bit is important to remember: can you please swap me with someone who is closer to Nottingham and can fit more calls in and i’ll do calls in Leicester that are closer to me and I can fit more in.


Apparently thats impossible because everyones rotas were set now.

Well wasn’t mine set until 15 mins ago but got changed???

So he offered me an hours extra office time of pay to make it worth it but that isn’t the point, its more wear and tear on my car and if I didnt stick up for myself I would keep getting walked all over. So after the call ended Katie was mad at me for having given in.

Now I HATE confrontation at all costs but she gave me the courage and with the help of my friends ma who’s a work lawyer I realised I had the law on my side to be able to reject hours even though i’d offered to swap.

I said I have anxiety and this whole situation and the stress is causing me months of work getting better to be set right back. He said he has it too and knows what its like, as if I should get over it. I put my foot down and said look I’ve offered a swap of rounds but you’ve given me no choice and i’m saying no.

Do you know what he said?

how I feel on the hpone to andrew
How I feel on the phone to Knobjockey

“You’re leaving vulnerable clients at risk I hope you know this”


I said how dare YOU threaten me like that.

(Also as i’m writing this I got a call from my friend who works for the company too, saying she was late for our double up and I said I don’t have them to which she said yeah we have them together. Looked at my emails and whilst I have been in between calls not having internet to look at my phone or any text messages that they’d changed the rota, so currently i’m ready to go in my next call and now having to leave that one, go to this one they added in then come back and finish up leaving me an hour later than I was supposed to be. ARGHHHHH.)

But anyhow back to the main story. He said let me see what I can do and hung up the phone. 

I waited and later I get a phone call from my manager saying “this isn’t how we work and someones had to go in on their birthday etc etc” and I wanted to say this isn’t how I work either on a 0 hour contract with a 20 mile radius and legally being able to reject any hours even though I offered to swap. But I didn’t and got the telling off. I felt awful and then also asked me to come into the office tomorrow.

Oh shit.

So I did, I went in as they scrapped ALL of my morning clients and the first thing I asked her was:

“did Knobjockey tell you that I asked to swap my round with someone else?”

Wanna know her reply? Because it was a big fat NO he didn’t have the decency to let her know the main thing that didn’t make me seem like such a bad person. STUFF YOU. She was furious with him and so she should be.

And after what happened the other night which I briefly mentioned in brackets, I quit. Probably the happiest i’ll ever feeling about handing in a notice because I am not a magical flying puppet on a string that can do whatever the heck they fancy me to.


  1. Don’t work illegally on a 0 hour contract or any contract. It can put other people and you at risk especially driving whilst exhausted, never get time to yourself and crap for your mental health. You have a life too.
  2. If your managers are this bad then they’re never going to improve and best to get out whilst you can. Plus whilst putting your point across to managers DON’T lose your rag. Stay calm and keep it factual and to the point or write down what you want to say beforehand so you don’t forget it, even in the heat of the moment. Make it clear/concise.
  3. If you want to go into a care assistant job make sure you’re going with the right company and look at the reviews for the one in your area as I didn’t and oh boy what a big mistake.
  4. Also know your rights guys. Don’t get taken advantage of and remember to stick up for yourself. There are laws that you will have on your side.
  5. If you feel you can’t stick up for yourself then why not join a union who’s sole purpose is to stick up for you and your rights as a human being. Don’t let this happen to you guys.
  6. LIFE’S TOO SHORT TO PUT UP WITH POO LIKE THIS (literally, a lot of poo). You only get one life so live it being happy, which is something i’ll always live by now.

Anyway let me know your work related problems you’ve had with managers, I want to know i’m not the only one who’s been messed around.

Peace n love guys, keep blogging!!!


49 thoughts on “How to Not Let Your Job Ruin Your Life: I QUIT

    1. Exactly, I couldnt do it myself as a business owner so dont understand how they do it to so many others! I can but not sure I can go through with that confrontation or if I should for the benefit for the other employees?


      1. If I joined a union then that being a government agency would be able to do something about it but because they’re private companies they’re not being monitored unless gov agencies are notified, but i’m very tempted to do something about it so people aren’t being mistreated like this!!


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  3. It’s so sad to hear that those who are trying to actually be a help to those in need are being so thoroughly abused. It shouldn’t have to come down to ruining your own wellbeing to improve someone else’s. There definitely needs to be higher standards in management.

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  4. Definitely feel this on a spiritual level. Companies really just don’t care about the well-being of their workers most of the time (in my opinion) and to them we’re just a number that can be easily replaced at a moment’s notice. A way I cope with this sort of nonsense is to find the humor in the situation, it helps lol.

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    Have a nice day!

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    1. exactly but then the amount of employee turn overs they’d have must be a lot of effort and upkeep and how is that growing the business? Yes I definitely come home and try to find the humour or write a blog post about it ahaha. No problem, always here to support other bloggers:) And you!!

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  5. I had that experience. I was so miserable at my first corporate job for two years. I’ve moved onto a smaller company since then and I’ve never looked back. Thanks for the read! 🙂

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  6. Though I only work as an intern, I can relate as I see people not enjoying what they’re doing due to factors such as sleep, salary,etc.. Will share the word to the people who would 100% relate, nice one

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  7. Wow, you were vevy brave Ella! Bussiness of any kind have to start to understand that they must take care of their employee and not only of their profits. It is really unacceptable that companies mistreated people in such a horrible way, tryin to get advantage of them and breaking their rights. I hope this blog post will help other pople in the same situation than you were to get the strenght they need to fight and stand up on their feet.

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    1. Even with this, not looking after their employers that’s also mistreating their clients as we’re hardly their on time and messing them around a lot. So do I as I hated seeing the other girls not knowing their rights or what to do about it. Gotta learn to stand up for yourself one day!

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  8. Good for you. Zero hour contracts should be outlawed and the employment laws that have been systematically ripped up, reinstated. No-one should have to put up with that, least of all care workers. Hope this proves a step toward better things.

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    1. I read an article the other day about the gov wanting to scrap them because of the employees being taken advantage of and being abused but who knows if it’ll happen! Exactly seeing as we’re the ones trying to help people in need but being taken advantage of ourselves, definitely unfair!

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  9. This is so good! I quit a job last year bc of stress & unappreciative management & tons of other things. I had to realize that my mental health is more important & if they didn’t even care enough to acknowledge my concerns, why stay there?! I wish I would’ve been calm & concise in the heat of the moment, like you, but nope. I had had it with the company & couldn’t care any less about a notice or anything. I soon realized my wrong & apologize, but I know so much better now & I will never again sacrifice my health to keep a job! Anywho,
    Great read! Thanks for sharing! 😊

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    1. That’s exactly the reason I quit as I told them about my mental health but didn’t take it into account at all. Honestly it took every bit of me to not loose my marbles with them. I was close to not give any notice but in spite I gave them less than two weeks and thought that was my little revenge ahaha. Thank you, really appreciate the comment 🙂

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      1. Lol good for you! Sounds to me like that’s the least they deserved. I hope you’ve had a stress free week so far! Nice chatting with you. ☺️


  10. That’s awesome that you got up the nerve to quit after being treated that way! You shouldn’t have to being doing work like that, and I’m so glad you’re out of that situation. Good luck in future employment! Thanks for the post.

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  11. In my opinion owning a business is better than working at a job anyway. The best type of income is passive income and residual income so it is a better to work a business system where you can build a life time income. The residual income becomes your retirement plan. Once you get there it is called financial freedom and time freedom.

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    1. Don’t let it effect your health, you come first and that’s the first thing to realise before you need to take the next step, maybe that be having a word with management and making sure they stick to it or moving on, think about yourself!,


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